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We have all felt anger. As parents, we can help our kids know what to do when anger comes. We can remind kids that it is okay to feel angry, but that it is something God does not want us to hold onto. There are things we can do as parents with our kids to help them let go of their anger and turn it over to God. Ephesians 4:26 tells us, “’And don’t sin by letting anger control you.’ Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives foothold to the devil.”
As you help your child learn to understand and process anger, here are some steps you can take:
- Listen and acknowledge how your child is feeling. Invite them to share what happened before they felt angry, what happened that led them to feel that way, and what they are thinking and feeling now.
- Invite them to recognize how they’re feeling physically, not just emotionally. Are they feeling tension in their shoulders, a racing heart, or having trouble sleeping? Guide them in calming their body through deep breaths, taking a walk, or drawing a picture.
- Help them take their anger to God in prayer. Model for your kids telling God about the things that are causing you anger and then invite your child to do the same. Then ask God to help the bring peace and calm that he can only bring.
- When it is appropriate, you can help lead your kids to forgiveness. Remind them of the forgiveness that we have because of Jesus, and that we can feel at peace when we grant that forgiveness to others.
Prayer: Dear God, We know that you have created us to feel a variety of emotions, including being angry. I pray that my child knows that you want more for them than anger. Be with our family as we walk through moments of anger together, and remind us that you are here for it all. We love you. Amen.